by Ralaya Evans, 3L

In starting my 3L year, I began asking myself how I would describe my growth, what I have learned and my law school journey thus far. I can honestly say that these past two years have taught me so much. I have matured in many ways that I believed myself to already be mature.

So, what have I learned so far?

Confidence. Law school taught me how to be more sure of myself. Even when I was not completely certain that I would be great in an interview, present in class, take an exam or more, I learned that second-guessing myself only encouraged a negative perspective. Building confidence in myself and knowing where I needed to improve were the keys to my success. There were times I would have to fake it. However, once I became aware of where I was lacking and what subjects were not my strong suit, I was able to plan a course of attack to get better at those things. Further, knowing where you may be falling short allows you not to be insecure in those things; you just view them as a chance for growth. It is best to own that you need the help and then do something about it.

Stress Management. Law school really taught me how to deal with stress, pressure, and difficult times. When I started law school, I had been out of school and in the workforce for about 3 years. I do believe that working before going to school prepared me for law school in numerous ways. However, law school taught me the most about stress and time management. I have continued to work throughout law school, as I have bills that need to be paid (of course). So, working, transitioning back into the mode of school, and going from having no responsibilities after work to having to complete assignments after was very stressful. However, I learned that even when I feel that I do not have any free time, I always do. I always have a few minutes to spare that I can take to myself and call my mom, grab dinner with my brother/friends, watch a show, etc. The goal is always to do something that I enjoy and will take my mind off of all of my responsibilities for a second. We are not all robots and “me” time is a must to prevent burnout.

Understanding, Patience, and Letting Go of the Need to Know. Law school can test your patience like no other. Everything seems to take forever. For example, we take exams and often have to wait several weeks until we know out grades. This was one of the hardest things about my 1L year: not knowing quick enough. So, I learned the art of waiting. Yes, I still want to know my grades immediately, but I also know I will not receive them quickly. That is just how law school works. Therefore, I take the exam and remind myself once I turn it in, nothing else is within my control. This ties back into the confidence aspect mentioned earlier. I know that I put the work in for the exams and that I did just fine. So, that helps me to wait comfortably and enjoy my Winter Break after fall semester or the beginning of summer after the spring semester.

To Have Realistic Expectations and to be Real With Myself. Before law school, I always made straight A’s. I have always cared so much about my grades and have always wanted to do exceptionally well at everything. However, school never required much effort on my part.  In law school, everyone is smart. Law school takes the top students of many schools and brings them together. Although your school will tell you school is not a competition, many things are viewed as a competition. Everyone wants to CALI. Everyone wants to be in the top percent. Everyone wants to be a member of groups, and maybe even President. It is not hard being surrounded by this; it is just very different from what we are most used to. I am now in an environment where everyone cares. It is a good thing but can cause disappointment at times. I have learned that not doing AMAZING on something does not mean failure. I have also learned that having to spend a little extra time on something to learn it doesn’t mean anything negative. I appreciate this lesson because it helped me learned that the only way to really prepare for challenges and spare myself unnecessary disappointed is to always be realistic with my expectations.

Since it is only September of 3L year, I know that I will learn more. And I welcome all of the lessons that law school will teach me.